Kate was 38, divorced three years, and back on dating apps in Darwin's small dating pool. But every guy seemed the same: emotionally unavailable, commitment-phobic, and weirdly similar to her ex-husband.
"Am I broken?" she asked her best friend over dinner at Mindil Beach markets. "Or do I have a 'type' I can't escape?"
Her friend, who'd recently started seeing someone promising, mentioned trying a relationship analysis tool before her current relationship. "It showed me my patterns—not just who I was attracting, but why I was attracted to them," she explained.
Kate tried the AI Relationship Compatibility Report on zaishi.net that evening. Her partnership success score came back at 68/100, which stung initially. But the detailed analysis revealed uncomfortable truths: Kate's communication style prioritized independence and self-sufficiency (trauma response from her divorce), which ironically attracted men who interpreted this as emotional distance and matched it with their own unavailability.
The report showed her conflict resolution pattern: withdraw and process alone. She kept dating men with the same pattern, creating relationships where nobody actually communicated about problems until everything exploded. Her ideal partner profile—which the AI generated based on compatibility science—looked nothing like the men she'd been swiping right on.
The AI recommended she wait until 39-40 for serious partnership consideration, not because she wasn't ready, but because her communication patterns were still evolving post-divorce. Most importantly, it gave her specific traits to look for: partners who were secure communicators, comfortable with both independence and intimacy, and willing to engage in direct conversations about feelings.
Six months later, Kate matched with someone completely different from her usual type—a teacher who actually talked about his emotions and wanted consistent communication. It felt weird at first, but for the first time in years, Kate felt safe in a relationship.
"I needed to understand my patterns before I could break them."
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